Most People Skip the Most Important Part of Sex
According to Psychologists This Is What Makes the Experience Complete
Intimacy doesn’t end with orgasm. Today, it’s clearer than ever that sex is not just a physical act but also an emotional connection. And just like foreplay or the act itself, aftercare is an equally important part of the sexual experience.
Many people simply skip the most crucial part of sex: sexual aftercare. Abruptly ending an intimate encounter is a bad idea, as it’s not beneficial for your body, your mind, or your relationship. But what exactly does aftercare mean, and why are more and more professionals and relationship counselors talking about it? Well, let us explain!
What Is Sexual Aftercare?
Sexual aftercare is a loving and attentive set of practices aimed at ensuring emotional, mental, and physical well-being between partners after sex. It might involve taking a shower together, cuddling, talking, gentle touches – anything that makes you and your partner feel: “I’m here for you, you matter to me.”
In the past, the focus was mainly on foreplay and consent, but recently, more attention has been given to the time after sex. And it’s no coincidence: as emotional intelligence and awareness increase in relationships, aftercare is becoming a more natural and essential part of intimacy.

Why Is Sexual Aftercare Important?
A sexual experience, even if it’s tender and loving, can be an intense physical and emotional event. During sex, hormones like endorphins and oxytocin – often called happiness hormones – are released, creating a euphoric feeling. But once these hormones dissipate, people – especially men – might feel a sense of emptiness, sadness, or even depression. This phenomenon is known as post-coital dysphoria.
Aftercare can help prevent these negative feelings. When partners communicate openly, attend to each other’s needs, and show care even after the act, it not only makes the moment more fulfilling but also improves the overall quality of the relationship in the long run.
According to Dr. Ratush, aftercare acts like a bridge between the intimate world and everyday life. It helps you return to reality while preserving the emotional closeness and sense of security in the relationship.
What Does It Look Like in Practice?
Sexual aftercare isn’t a one-size-fits-all concept. Everyone has different needs in order to feel emotionally satisfied after intimacy. Here are a few examples of how aftercare might look:
- Cuddling, hugging, gentle touches
- Sweet conversation – whether about the experience or unrelated topics
- Showering or bathing together
- Listening to music or watching a movie while snuggled up
- Sharing snacks in bed – even a bit of chocolate or strawberries can work wonders
- Napping or relaxing together
- Giving a back massage or stroking each other’s hair
- Simply being there for each other – in silence, peacefully
The most important thing is to communicate! Ask your partner: “What would feel good for you right now?” “Do you need anything?” Just like you discuss boundaries and desires before sex, it’s just as important to find harmony in the time that follows.